Question by Patrick: My spouse has been arrested, I am looking for similar stories to see how others dealt with the stress?
My spouse was recently arrested for Grand Larceny in the 4th degree. Something was stolen at her work. She had a previous history of drug use, which she has been to rehab for and has since stopped using. After she stopped using, she started gambling instead. Due to her history, and somebody placing her near the ‘scene of the crime’ they had enough probable cause to arrest her.
She denies the claims, and I believe her at this time, but there have been trust issues in the past due to her drug use. I am sticking by her now, especially because we have two kids. It makes it hard to run away. Our lawyer says the case looks weak at this time, but who knows where it will end up?
I did not approve of her drug use and told her it would eventually lead to an arrest. I am trying to believe her that she did not do it, but it is very hard. I guess I am just hoping that she has hit rock bottom, and that no matter what happens, it will get better. She seems to know that she has messed up and states she wants to start over.
I am really just looking for stories or resources from others that may have been in a similar situation. Did you stick with your spouse? What did you do if they were convicted and went to jail? How do you explain the situation to your kids? (ages 4 & 6). Should I just cut her loose now and file for divorce? Take the kids and start over? Things were not always like this. The issues started when she started using. I would give anything to get back to how things were then. Anything will help. Thank you.    Read more...